My Bumpy Middle Aged Lengthy Hair Journey
I actually enjoyed the comments in response to yesterday’s blog entry. It was nice to hear from folks with brief hair, long hair, dyed hair, natural hair, and others who break the so-called rules. Obviously I am not alone in the way that I feel.
The title of this entry was my realization right this moment. Whereas there are pointers to trying one’s finest and having one’s hair look its best there really are no hard and fast rules that we all must follow.
I was remembering as we speak when i first began listening to the “you’re too old for that style” remark. I laugh about it now, because I was only 32 years old, nonetheless a young woman in my prime and maybe at the height of my attractiveness, corresponding to they were. I had gone for a fairly short lower something like Meg Ryan wore at the time, and the hair stylist did a lovely job with it. I felt fabulous.
Nonetheless, when i went over to visit with my aunts who lived near the salon, they advised me that the fashion was straight black wigs too messy for someone of my age. “You’re no kid anymore, you know.”, my one aunt said, and the opposite aunt nodded vigorously in agreement.
I remember feeling merely floored by the assertion. I had to start sporting my hair like a helmet at the age of 32 Ummmmm..
Then a number of years later, I grew my hair longer and I was told by the same aunts and some other family members that I needed to cut a few inches off. I did not know whether I used to be coming or going. There were so many rules, but none of them felt like me.
I felt very empowered when I was 45 and discovered The Long Hair Group. Here have been people who would be supportive of my long hair quest, although I used to be no kid!
This was a place where I could possibly be accepted with my hair just the best way it was.
It wasn’t long though, before I discovered that within the neighborhood, there are several totally different factions, some of whom imagine that their way is the only approach.
Not long ago someone sent me a message at the LHC that mentioned that I “should” grow out my fringe. No reasons given, just that I ought to develop out my fringe. Very recently a member whom I do not even know instructed me I “ought to” get highlights, as dyeing my hair all one colour is too flat. I didn’t ask either of these people for advice.
I am should upon enough in the actual world that it sort of stings to be ought to upon by the folks whom I assumed would settle for me the way I am.
Don’t get me fallacious. I love the LHC and i go to there almost day by day. Generally I am just stunned on the attitudes of a few of the members.
There are occasions when somebody has really visibly damaged hair, and they might ask for very sincere advice. Since I’ve actually been asked for advice, I would advise that they minimize a number of inches off. I would not give unsolicited advice nevertheless.
Yet there are die-hards there who will scream, “Don’t lower off an inch!”. I guess some people are actually hard core about long hair at any price.
Having read your entire responses to yesterday’s blog entry, I am more committed than ever to doing whatever makes me feel finest, whether it flouts societal rules or LHC “rules”. So I’ve decided that straight black wigs with regards to my own personal fashion, there merely are not any guidelines apart from those which make me feel like me. One of the best me.
Thank you all so much for your input. It was all very interesting and so much appreciated.
‘Til tomorrow. My love to all.